Not Born to Sleep: Rethinking Expectations for Baby Rest

We Expect Too Much from Babies

Culture tells us babies should sleep 12 hours by 12 weeks. Science tells us: not really.

Babies:

• Need support to fall asleep
• Wake frequently for food, safety, and connection
• Develop sleep skills gradually—not instantly

Realistic Sleep Progress

Instead of “through the night,” aim for:

• Shorter wake windows
• Longer stretches at night
• Easier settling
• Fewer full wake-ups

These are wins worth celebrating.

Final Thought

You didn’t do anything wrong. Your baby isn’t broken. They’re just… a baby.